What People Are Really Doing When They Play Hard to Get

Metadata

• Author: [[Luke Burgis]]
• Full Title: What People Are Really Doing When They Play Hard to Get
• Category: #articles
• URL: https://read.lukeburgis.com/p/mimetic-romance

Highlights

• The most desirable things are the things we can’t have.
• The danger with models is this: if our desire is determined by models, then our desire is not entirely our own.
• we set out in search of the one thing we think we truly want, which we believe must be hidden under the one rock that is too heavy for us to lift.
• It means overcoming that initial impulse of pride that makes us want to make other people work really hard to get to us. It means being accessible, open, vulnerable—making an unmerited gift of ourselves to others. Another word for that is love.